For those who are grieving, the holidays can be an emotionally challenging time. At Crisis Text Line, we know that coping with loss during the holidays can be extremely difficult but it’s essential to remember that it’s okay NOT to be okay. We are always here for you, 24/7.  Reach out anytime by texting HOME or AYUDA to 741741 to reach a live volunteer Crisis Counselor for support in English or Spanish. Below are five tips that can help you navigate grief during the holidays and honor the memory of your loved ones.

• Acknowledge Your Feelings:

Grieving during the holidays is a unique experience, and it’s essential to acknowledge and accept your feelings. Validate them as real, in any and all forms.  Experience the pain rather than trying to escape it and you will actually feel better in the long-term. Recognize that there is no “right” way to grieve.  Eventually, the holidays will get easier but only if you allow yourself to experience the grief of going through them without your loved one. It’s okay to feel a mix of emotions, including sadness, anger, and even moments of joy. Recognize that your emotions are valid.

• Create New Traditions:

Traditions hold a significant place in holiday celebrations, and continuing old traditions may be painful in the absence of a loved one. Consider creating new traditions that honor the memory of your loved one while bringing a sense of renewal. This could be lighting a special candle, preparing their favorite dish, or participating in an activity you both enjoyed.

• Set Realistic Expectations:

It’s crucial to set realistic expectations for yourself during the holidays. Don’t force yourself to attend every holiday event or celebration.  It is okay to say no if a specific ceremony is going to bring you painful memories. Communicate your needs with others and let them know how they can support you. 

• Memorialize Your Loved One:

Finding meaningful ways to remember and honor your loved one can be a therapeutic way to navigate grief during the holidays. Create a memorial, whether it’s through a scrapbook, a memorial ornament, or a charitable donation in their name. By actively remembering your loved one, you are integrating their memory into the holiday season in a positive and healing way.

• Reach Out for Support:

Grieving is a process that requires support, especially during challenging times like the holidays. Reach out to friends or family to share your thoughts and feelings. You can also connect with Crisis Text Line by texting HOME or AYUDA to 741741 to reach a live volunteer Crisis Counselor for support in English or Spanish. Having a support system can provide comfort and help alleviate the sense of isolation that grief often brings. 

There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and everyone’s journey is unique. By acknowledging your feelings, creating new traditions, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can navigate the holiday season with greater resilience and find a path toward healing.