Bullying: What it is, who it affects, and getting help
What is bullying?
Bullying is ongoing aggression based on a power imbalance. In other words, it’s when someone repeatedly acts to harm another person, or is otherwise hostile toward them, using the power the bully has over the victim.
A “power imbalance” in bullying can mean different things: maybe the bully is physically bigger and stronger than the victim, or maybe they’re just more popular.
Acts of aggression and hostility become bullying when they happen more than once.
Bullying can be physical, verbal, or social.
Physical: Hurting or trying to hurt a person’s body or possessions. Hitting, kicking, breaking things, and pushing are all physical forms of bullying.
Verbal: Saying things to hurt a person’s feelings. This can include teasing, threats, and name-calling.
Social: Hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. If someone purposely leaves you out, spreads rumors about you, or tells other people not to be friends with you, you’re being socially bullied.
Bullying has harmful effects on the bully, the victim, and bystanders (people who witness it).
People who are bullied may experience anxiety and depression, which can continue into adulthood. Their eating and sleeping habits can be affected, leading to a variety of physical health issues. They’re more likely to miss school, which can damage their academic performance.
Bullies often continue to engage in risky or violent behavior, including alcohol/drug abuse, fights, criminal activity, and being abusive to spouses and romantic partners as adults.
Bystanders can have similar issues to victims, including missing school, depression, and anxiety.
People who are being bullied may show any of these signs:
Injuries they can’t explain
Changes in eating and sleeping
Faking illness or claiming to feel sick
Headaches and stomachaches
Avoiding social situations, including people who were once their friends
Self-harm or other dangerous behaviors
Worsening academic performance
People who are bullying others may show any of these signs:
Getting into fights
Getting into more trouble at school
Becoming more aggressive
Having friends who bully
Showing concern about their reputation and popularity
Bystanders are people who see or hear bullying happen. A bystander can be helpful (by getting help from a trusted adult, or, if possible to do safely, intervening by defending the victim or asking the bully to stop) or harmful (by cheering the bully on, joining in, or accepting the situation by doing nothing).
What Our Data Says
Texters ages 13 and younger experience bullying at 3 times the rate of other texters.
Texters dealing with bullying are 3 times as likely to be struggling with their gender or sexual identity, and twice as likely to also be struggling with body image.
The top five distinct words we see in bullying conversations are: cyber, middle, abused, verbally, and rumor.
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