Loneliness is a complex emotion that can affect us in various ways and can touch anyone at different points in their lives. It doesn’t discriminate based on age, background, or social status. It’s a human experience that we all encounter in some form or another.  And on Valentine’s Day – it can perpetuate this loneliness. If you are feeling the Valentine’s Day blues, you’re not alone. Sometimes, reaching out and sharing our feelings can be challenging, but it’s a brave step toward building connections. If you ever find yourself grappling with loneliness and need someone to talk to, consider talking to friends, family, or even reaching out to us by texting CONNECT to 741741 or you can start a web chat here. In our busy lives, it’s easy to overlook the importance of human connection, but it remains a fundamental aspect of our well-being.

Why do people feel lonely during Valentine’s Day?

People often experience loneliness during Valentine’s Day for a variety of reasons. The societal emphasis on romantic relationships and the cultural celebration of couples on this day can enhance the sense of isolation for those who are single or recently heartbroken. Seeing images of happy couples on your social media platforms can intensify feelings of inadequacy or exclusion. Valentine’s Day shouldn’t define your worth or the richness of our connections. It’s perfectly okay to be your own Valentine.

Checking in with Yourself: Loneliness Symptoms & Signs

If you’re not sure why you are feeling specific emotions, it’s crucial to recognize the signs for loneliness, not only in others but within ourselves. Below are several physical symptoms and signs of loneliness:

• Isolation or solitude
• Changes in sleep patterns
• Low energy levels
• Changes in appetite
• Increased irritability
• Frequent sickness
• Lack of interest in hobbies
• Excessive social media use
• Feelings of depression/sadness

Here are Some Tips for Dealing with Loneliness During Valentine’s Day

• Self-Love Celebration: Take this day as an opportunity to pamper yourself and practice self-love. Treat yourself to your favorite meal, indulge in a spa day at home, or simply relax with a good book or movie.
• Avoid Triggers:  Avoid watching romantic movies or listening to love songs because they may trigger even more feelings of loneliness. Try watching a new show within a different genre like action or comedy. Also – social media can be a trigger. Setting a daily limit on social media usage promotes a healthier balance, allowing you to prioritize real-life interactions and personal well-being over excessive screen time.
• Connect with Friends and Family: Reach out to friends or family members for a casual get-together. Plan a movie night, dinner, or a game night to share laughter and companionship. 
• Volunteer or Give Back: Consider volunteering for a local charity or community organization. Helping others can provide a sense of fulfillment and connection, shifting the focus from personal loneliness to making a positive impact.  At Crisis Text Line, we were always looking for volunteers. If you’re looking to make a difference in people’s lives, click here to join our volunteer community.
• Practice Gratitude: Take a moment to reflect on the positive aspects of your life. Expressing gratitude for the relationships, experiences, and opportunities you have can shift your perspective and enhance your overall well-being.

Sharing Quotes to Help You Cope with Loneliness

“Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.” —Maya Angelou

 “I like to do things that glorify being alone. I buy candles that smells pretty, turn down the lights and make a playlist of low-key songs.” –  Taylor Swift

 “Asking for help is never a sign of failure but a sign of strength because your life is worth saving.” – Gisele Bündchen 

Affirmations to Overcome Feelings of Loneliness

1. I am loved, and my friends and family are a positive support system.
2. I embrace the peace and quiet of my own company.
3. I am stronger than loneliness.
4. I respect and love myself, and that’s enough.
5. I choose to make today wonderful.  

Remember, it’s okay to feel lonely on Valentine’s Day. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you ever feel the need to talk or share your thoughts, we are here for you. Feel free to reach out to us for support. Just text CONNECT to 741741 to reach a live volunteer Crisis Counselor. Valentine’s Day is just one day, and you’ve got 364 other days to shine. Let’s navigate through this together and come out stronger on the other side!