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If You Just Watched '13 Reasons Why'

 
  1. Whatever you’re feeling is valid. The series is intense, and if you’re feeling upset about the events depicted, you’re not alone. Do whatever you need for yourself, whether that’s talking to a loved one about how you feel or enjoying some time away from your screen.
  2. Take warning signs of suicide seriously. If someone you care about is showing warning signs of suicide, take action. Start by talking to them about what they’re going through and let them know you care. Listening non-judgmentally and sharing your concern can help them stay safe.

  3. There are people who want to - and can - give support. While many of the adult characters on 13 Reasons Why struggle to give meaningful support, seeking help is valuable and life-saving. And even if someone doesn’t know the best way to help, they can help you find someone who does.

  4. Talking helps. It may not seem like much, but talking about how you’re feeling or what you’re going through. goes a long way. Whether it’s to a friend, parent, or anyone else you trust, telling someone that you’re struggling means not having to be alone in your pain.

  5. Struggling isn’t weakness. The issues that characters face in the show - including mental illness, bullying, and sexual assault - can happen to anyone. Talking about them, coping with them, and recovering shows immense strength.

  6. Death by suicide is irreversible. Hannah Baker remains present in the lives of her classmates after her death, but this doesn’t happen in real life. The loss survivors left behind by a suicide can experience intense grief, including feelings of guilt, shame, anger, and helplessness.

  7. There is always hope. If you’re struggling, know that how you’re feeling now isn’t how you’ll feel forever. It’s always still possible to recover and have a full life.

  8. We’re here for you. Trained Crisis Counselors are ready to support you, 24/7. Text HOME to 741741 for free crisis support.